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Fabric, Sinew and Glue

by Tamara Archer on January 31, 2018 No comments

Women are the strength, fabric, and sinew of our communities; we are the glue that binds with meaning, ritual, care, and regard. As human beings and social animals, belonging is a fundamental piece of our existence ~ physically for safety, as well as socially, emotionally, and spiritually ~ it feeds us on so many levels to be connected to others.

But not just to anyone… Some of us are connected to friends, family, colleagues etc. who in some or many ways do not support us ~ being connected to them drains us of our spirit, our light, and has us feel inadequate. Being around them diminishes us and has us question and doubt ourselves, be it occasionally or constantly. If that’s you, do some quitting and find other people and community(s) that nourish you, where you can shine your light, and where you can be that for others.

Quitting is an interesting concept, which I’ll write in more depth in future blog(s). For now, sometimes it requires that actual act of quitting ~ the job, friendship, marriage etc. Other times, shifting the nature of the relationship is all that’s needed. The good news is you don’t need both sides ~ you can shift your approach, attitude, behavior and that action alone will change the relationship.

In the analogy of a tennis game, if one player lays down the racket or no longer plays at the net etc, the game is fundamentally changed by their action. Where can a shift in your actions change a challenging relationship? Many of you already have community(s), some of you may need a deeper one, or different one(s)… but it’s so worth the exploration to find ones that resonate and serve you.

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Prologue ~ This is for You, Chickiepoo!

by Tamara Archer on January 17, 2018 No comments

I’m almost at the end of my 4+ month Self-Care Sojourn and, not knowing what to expect, it’s not been what I expected 😊… (more on that in future posts).

We’re fresh into the New Year and despite my good intentions, expectations, and declarations of starting my blog in October, I finally (that’s a Brutal Bully*) feel like writing. It’s probably some combination of the start of the New Year, actually feeling better (what a concept), having just read The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck, time, healing, rest, etc, so I’m thinking this will be something akin to the Star Wars rollout in that it starts in the middle (ish) and goes back to the beginning later, or whatever makes sense as I go along 😊…

I’m at or near the end of the mourning phase of multiple, major, simultaneous transitions: ending my 21-year marriage; being an empty nester; selling my home of 23 years; redesigning my business; the next big decade; and significant shifts in my sources of income. And coming into acceptance and excitement about the possibilities, the blank canvas ~ and for the first time ever in my life, not being so afraid of not knowing the answer(s)! That part is huge for me and leaves me so much lighter in my engagement and curiosity.

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Tamara ArcherPrologue ~ This is for You, Chickiepoo!